REVISED ARGUMENTATIVE ESSAY
"Rough Patches, Broken Strings And Sleepless Nights"
David Jericho A. Basco
Teenagers nowadays face a common problem, a problem that affects an individual so devastatingly that it seems impossible to recover from it. The problem I’m talking about is the spirit-breaking, heart-shattering and merciless occurrence which is called the break-up. Most people would think, especially men, that women are weaker when compared with the opposite sex. That would be true if we’re talking about physical built but when it comes to emotion, females are stronger. Physical strength can still be severely weakened if emotions are also weakened; it’s just a simple case of mind over matter. Let’s face it, men are more emotional than women therefore on break-ups, they are more prone to being emotionally scarred and traumatized but acceptance is the only way one can get over it.
The topic that most if not all teenagers are curious about is love. Love is the best reward one can ever get; there are moments that it’s just indescribable. You’ll feel that the world is yours and that nothing can stop you when you know that someone you like also feels the same for you. That’s where it all starts, slowly but surely, a relationship is sprouting. Throughout that growth, both partners get to know more about each other and start to fall for each other more deeply. Since love is the greatest gift of all, it would be a challenge to keep it safe and intact. So, all throughout their relationship, a couple faces tests called rough patches. These tempt the couple to break-off when its actual intention is to just test whether the fire of love is still burning. When they manage to go through a rough patch, their bond is strengthened thus their love shines brighter than before.
A lot of couples manage to get over a rough patch but to those unfortunate ones that don’t, they start to doubt whether they should continue to venture further thus the start of broken strings. This is that part when they say to each other that they need some time off or they should start seeing other people. This is the part that eventually leads to the break-up which results to a lot of sleepless nights. For most women, it would take them a few weeks or months to get over but for men, it would take those months, years or sometimes never to recover from a painful shot to the heart. This is why most cases of suicide are made up of a majority of males. Men just hide their emotions because they’re too afraid to show it thus it accumulates and will eventually lead to hopelessness. Women on the other hand have other women that will always cheer them on and help them get over. Guys usually don’t have friends that will do just that, but for those who have, then they are very lucky. But even if all men do have friends like that, it would still be difficult to make a man share what he’s hurting inside.
Guys are very emotional especially in break-ups, getting over isn’t as simple as citing the alphabet or counting up to ten. Getting over or acceptance is a tedious task for men but for those who really didn’t invest in their relationships, getting over won’t be a problem for them. The first thing to do is to try to occupy your mind with something else. Don’t ever do something that will remind you of her because it would just make things worse, every step in getting over truly is difficult and takes a lot of time so patience is necessary here. While doing that, most guys will destroy everything that reminds them of her like the stuffed toy she bought for you or the picture of you two kissing as fireworks burst through the background. That is wrong, instead of throwing those memorabilias away; you should learn to face your fear. If you can’t face the teddy bear she gave you for your anniversary, how much harder would it be when you face her? What you should forget is memory of your break-up because it’s the catalyst that rots your good memories with her. If you forget about the break-up, other memories would come back to normal. But most guys would also forget these memories because it might trigger their tears. With that truth, instead of crying over those memories and missing her, you should just reflect on those and see what you can learn. And after a while of reflection, it’s time to face your ex, even if it’s not your fault, you should still apologize since you’re the gentleman. A sincere apology isn’t something difficult to do; if you truly love someone, being sincere won’t be a hard task. Being able to do this not only shows that you are a real man but it will definitely help you start over with someone else or even with her.
As explained a while ago, women are definitely emotionally stronger than men because they have their girlfriends to back them up while men don’t. Not only that but females tend to be open with what they are feeling deep inside thus whatever pain is in there, she’s able to release it. For a guy’s case, they are tough nuts to crack. Men are too proud to express what they really feel inside therefore all the pain are just piled up and will make them feel crappy deep inside. Because of that, they feel hopeless whenever a break-up occurs thus it makes them feel that they are useless and suicide eventually comes to mind. But even with that, some dudes try to recover but are doing it wrong. Getting over is a longer process for men when compared with women’s. A woman can just share what she’s feeling with her friends and her friends will help her remove the knives stuck in her heart. For guys, they would rather just fight this battle alone but doing so causes them to make mistakes on the way and making his situation a lot worse. Getting over is not a simple process so giving it time and patience will really help you in achieving this.
To sum it all up, mind really is over matter because no matter how tough or strong you are, simple statements like, “We’re done” and “There’s someone else” will break you apart. Men are most affected by break-ups because they are not emotionally prepared for it like women are. Guys tend to bottle their feelings instead of sharing it like girls do and because of that, these bottled feelings come back to haunt them. But even with that, acceptance provides a way to help a man recover from it as long as they are willing to give time and patience in getting over. Not only that, they must also learn how to reflect and make themselves vulnerable. In other words, men should somehow be like women in terms of handling emotions.